Friday, 16 December 2011

Now and Then




The past few weeks have been a bit of a roller coaster which  has hit me for six. A routine check up for my  O/H down at the Docs six  weeks ago turned out to be the not too brilliant news all of us get now and then. He's been for a couple of stays in hospital and yesterday had an all day appointment in Day Surgery.  A nurse led us into a side waiting room down the corridor. It was different than the normal  stark rows of seats. There were about a dozen or so comfortable arm chairs around the room  and little circular polished wooden tables in a sort of semi circle. A Christmas tree with ribbons and baubles  lit the one corner and a wide screen television hung on the opposite wall. A nurse in a light green uniform brought a constant supply of tea and biscuits. It's a strange feeling but there's a sort of camaraderie between the folks sitting together - an unspoken knowingness that brought us all together, almost like a family. There is a local charity in Shrewsbury which raises money for places like these. I don't know how you feel but in the past  I've tended to be a bit sceptical about whether money given for charity always reaches the destination for which it was intended. Not any more .... and I am eternally grateful to the folks who've donated.  I sat with hubs until lunch time. Shrewsbury Hospital has a large bustling restaurant where the food is quite decent so I nipped out for a while to get some lunch. Tinned Christmas music muted through the load speakers and  turkey with all the trimmings (plus a free cracker) was on the menu. The restaurant was pretty full but I found an unoccupied table in the corner. I sat down with my feast and Christmas cracker in front of me. I couldn't help think about one of  Tom's blogs of how one Christmas he had a meal with H.I. in a top hotel. He mentioned how this man was sitting alone at a table with his solitary feast, when he took his cracker in both hands, pulled and put the paper hat on. The thought made me laugh, how daft was that on a day like this. No I couldn't pull a cracker with myself ... no way, no way. The day passed and I took my cracker home and stuck it on the window next to a vase of holly. The funny thing is, it lifts my spirits every time I look at it. O/H? He's in safe hands and doing OK and we're giving it our best shot.

21 comments:

  1. Much love to you and your Hubby, coming your way Molly XX

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  2. Warm thought and prayers going out to you. It is hard to have illness anytime, but especially at the holidays. The thoughtfulness of others at the hospital should be an encouragement to all of us, not to forget charity.

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  3. Sending healing hopeful thoughts your way Molly. What a lousy time of year to be in the hospital.

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  4. Will pray for you both. Waiting with someone in hospital can be very draining. We trace down all monies of charities we donate to or we just give money or goods directly to folks in need.

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  5. Prayers and good thoughts for your love who isn't feeling well. What a tough time you've been having, and now to be alone at Christmas . . . Wish I could hang out with you there. xxxx

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  6. By the way, the code word for my reply above was, "Bumpsynd." Just thought you'd like to know, haha.

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  7. I do hope your husband feels better soon. It is most stressful for all involved to have a hospital stay. I am not one to dine alone, but often observe other lone diners and wonder what's going on with them.

    All the best for a nice pre christmas weekend.

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  8. I'm sorry to hear about your husband's illness, and wish him all the very best.

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  9. White healing light coming your way Molly, by the lorry-load! Always room for one more at our table...we'll save a spot for you.

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  10. To my dear friend Molly, So many of us want to sit there with you and hold your hand as you go through this difficult time. Hugs to you.

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  11. Me too Molly, you're in my thoughts. If good vibes can heal, then the amount that are coming your way should do the trick. Bisou, Cro.

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  12. Molly - so sorry to hear that OH is not feeling his usual perky self - you are in both our thoughts - xx

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  13. Thank you so much for your comments. Amy - love the word 'Bumpsynd.' We 'bumpsynd' and'bumpsouted' He came home with me the same day and is doing OK. The nurses were fantastic. Got a few more hospital trips on the cards, but your vibes are keeping us going xxxx

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  14. Dear Molly,our home sends you lots of warm hugs and healing thoughts, a yukky time to be ill..blessings Molly..

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  15. O my dear, I'm so sorry, I know all about those cosy side rooms where you are treated like a human being rather than an ailment on legs. I do so hope you O/H is well and that whatever it is is treatable.

    Their okay for the serious stuff at the RSH, capable and efficient; the day care unit is a place my Beloved and I know only to well. Let me know how it goes.

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  16. I am pleased to hear that he was not kept in, and that he is now doing ok.
    I posted up my Christmas video not knowing any of this. I'm glad you liked it and thanks for your kind comments, not only yesterday, but all through the past year. 2011 has been a year of 'ups & downs' for many of us, hasn't it.
    Let's all hope for better times in 2012.
    Thinking of you....Bernard.

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  17. I'm sending my thought, prayers, and positive energy your hubby's way, that he heals and gets well very soon. I'm sorry this is a reality you've had to deal with Molly. oh dear. now, as an aside - what is a Christmas cracker? Initially I thought it something to eat, but that can't be the case, if it sits on your sill beside a vase of holly! may your spirits be perpetually lifted my dear friend across the water. {{{hugs}}}

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  18. Friko - feeling a lot more positive today. I'm sure you have walked the same road with your Beloved - my thoughts are with you both too xx
    Bernard - Your Christmas card cheered me up more than you will know, You and Wesley have a brilliant Christmas xx
    Becky - thank you for your positive energy which I received today :0) A Christmas Cracker is a cardboard tube covered in brightly coloured foil. Inside the tube is a paper hat a small plastic (or more expensive) dinky little present and a motto written on a small piece of paper. There is also also a a thin strip of cardboard from one end of the cracker which makes a cracking sort of noise when both ends of the cracker are pulled. the person who has the biggest end wins the present.

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  19. Thinking of you and your husband and wishing him a quick recovery. Had I seen you sitting there alone with your cracker, I surely would have come over and given it a go with you!

    xo Kat

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  20. Hey Molly, sorry to hear you and your OH have had to spend time in hospital last place you really want to be , but sometimes necessary.
    Just reminded me 12 months ago my hubby was in hospital for an op 3 days before Christmas ......so I know what you mean about the camaraderie...

    Thinking of you both and sending some blue sky and sunshine wishes for a speedy recovery for Oz,

    Claire X

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  21. Hi Molly

    I'm playing blog catch-up today. Seems like you've and O/H have a lot on your plates right now.

    I hope your guy is ok and makes a speedy recovery Molly.x

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