Monday, 25 January 2016

Some Other Sunrise


You know how it is. You're doing ordinary things - we were on our way to the Docs early on this morning. As I was locking up - this fabulous sunrise. Just had to go back and grab my camera. Moments later the sky lightened and it had disappeared.
We went to a funeral this afternoon. A close friend of ours had died suddenly on New Year's Eve. After the shock and disbelief, I'm glad that there was a space of just over three weeks before the actual funeral took place. Time to get my head around things. He was a character and a half, a sharp wit and a practical joker. One of those people, just having him around made the day a little bit brighter. All of two hundred people were packed in that little church.
It was just a privilege to have someone like him walk through my life. I'm sure a lot of people felt the same as I did. More, 'the celebration of a life' than 'the mourning of a death.' Is it wrong to admit that you enjoyed a funeral?  But this one I did.
Hey Gordon. We'll miss you.

16 comments:

  1. I agree with you that it is easier to attend a memorial when there is a space of time in between. I do rather like a "Celebration of Life" done a few weeks later, rather than a quick funeral, especially after a sudden death. I gives people time to get over the shock and to remember the wonderful times that were shared with a loved one.

    My sympathy to you, Molly, on losing your dear friend.

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  2. So sorry to hear of the death of your good friend, Molly. I know just what you mean about enjoying a funeral. I've been to a lot of Welsh country funerals with the church packed to capacity and ripples of laughter going round when the person's quirks and sayings are lovingly remembered. Such a service really helps the bereaved to let go.

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  3. I went to several funerals like the one for your dear friend, and it helped me see my way clear a year and a half ago to do the same for my brother. My sympathy to you and I'm glad the day was more joyful than sad.

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  4. Those sunrises are fleeting, but spectacular when they occur. I'm very sorry you have lost a friend. Several of my friends died last year. One was a lady who I spoke to often on the phone because she passed on prayer requests and I miss her, of course. I'm glad the funeral was more uplifting than sad.

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  5. I agree with the celebration of a life thing. I'm happy with the way I've lived my life, so when I go I don't want people to be sorry I've gone. Let them celebrate the things I did, as few as they are.
    Glad the sunrise hung around long enough for you to get the camera.

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  6. Sorry you had to lose such a good friend. And no, it's not wrong to enjoy a funeral.

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  7. Lovely sunrise. Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Funerals here are more about celebrating of life nowadays and there is often a lot of laughter - far better than the past when it was all doom and gloom and I am sure far better for the family.

    I hope the doctors appointment went well.

    Hot here - about 85 degrees F. Doug has just gone home. He has been cutting hedges for me and I was helping barrowing away the detritus.

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  8. I don't know if I'm right, but our recent sunrises seem to have been much more spectacular in recent times.

    I don't like funerals. I usually go to the church, stand around outside with all the others, then after the coffin has been taken inside I leave. I avoid the church bit.

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  9. I am sorry you have lost such a good friend, Molly. Nothing wrong with enjoying a good funeral and the celebration of life.

    I plan to have some beautiful, sad music played (just enough to stimulate the odd tear) and then everyone must party and have a good time, telling tales and cracking jokes. A good send-off helps people to heal!
    xx

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  10. What a wonderful sunrise Molly, it certainly must've been an early start for you....
    I would much prefer a funeral where you can laugh, remembering good times, than one where you come away feeling worse than ever. My mums memorial was the best, we laughed and joked. I wore my chook hat and read a funny poem she had written and we asked people to bring flowers or something growing in their garden. People bought flowers, vegies/silverbeet even weeds.( Mum often grew vegetables in amongst her flowers much to our horror at times!!.) We put everything in vases and had them up the front. We also chose 4 of her gardening books and asked people to write down a memory about mum in them and we each kept one. The staff at the funeral home, said it was the best send off they'd seen...So sorry to read about your friend, what an awful shock, but good that you could gather and really celebrate his life.....xx

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  11. So sorry to hear about your friend, but how blessed to have someone to wonderful in your life

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  12. I'm deeply sad by the loss of yours.

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  13. I think that is the best compliment and from what you say about your friend, he would have been delighted to know you enjoyed his farewell and saw him off in such style.

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  14. I think that is the best compliment and from what you say about your friend, he would have been delighted to know you enjoyed his farewell and saw him off in such style.

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  15. Thank you so much for all your lovely comments - they mean a lot to me x

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